For any healthy individual or couple experiencing a difficult, problematic or less than enjoyable loving relationship in today’s crazy world (and who hasn’t?) – this book is perfect for you. The primary focus is on mutual ("us", "we", and "me and you") issues pertinent to loving relationships – the couple and their relationship. Using case vignettes from the authors’ clinical experiences as psychologists, the first 14 chapters address the loving relationship topics of Love, Loving, Our Pasts, Relationship Analysis, Congruence and Balance, Outside Factors and Features, Other People, Needs and Wants, Expectations and Dependence, Boundaries and Control, Lifestyles, Monetary and Equity Issues, and Problems, and Relationship Skills. The last three address where to look for more help when serious situations arise: Seeing a Professional Counselor, Therapist or Family Mediator, How a Professional Counselor or Therapist Can be Helpful to You, and Some Suggestions About Getting Help from a Professional. The book is very reader-friendly, simplistic, solution-focused and down to earth, and also includes 39 Figures from their case files that graphically display the issues and helpful recommendations.
The book’s authors, with many years of experience as psychologists, professors and scholars, conceptualize loving relationships and improving them as representing developmental processes that are best seen as a kind of ongoing and ever-evolving "dance" between two individuals – relationships are not events! Reading this book will contribute to, enrich and enhance any individual’s or couple’s developmental processes- and especially themselves and their relationship.