The Humbled Phallus: A Clinical Look at the Creation of Familial Narcissism and its Impact on Masculinity (pp. 53-73)
Authors: (Asaf Rolef Ben-Shahar, Israel)
Abstract: One day I was sitting on the London underground, on the way to my clinic, wearing my cowboy hat and a black vest, so that my tattoos were showing. Most people averted their eyes immediately: people sporting big tattoos are perceived as dangerous. But in-front of me sat a young mother with her toddler boy. And he was curious; very curious. “What’s that?” he asked, pointing at my head. “It’s a hat,” said the mum, making eye contact with me, and so we smiled.
Suddenly we entered a relationship, a developing relationship: periodical glimpses; an occasional smile. We recognised one another’s humanness. The boy turned to look at a hooded teenager, another dangerous creature. “What’s that?” he asked. “These are this guy’s shoes,” mum said and the young man lifted his head, looking at the boy, and waved. People were joining the carriage and leaving it. The most vulnerable member of this audience was also the least frightened and prejudiced, and the connecting glue of our community.